Relationship Over Beliefs
It’s a dirty word in church circles. It’s often used to toward someone in the church who is stirring up something most would rather let lie;
“She has such a spirit of division.”
“He’s trying to divide the church with this issue”
Scripture speaks of division quite often:
“Watch out for people who cause division…stay away from them.”
– Romans 16:17
“If people are causing division among you…have nothing more to do with them.”
– Titus 3:10
Even Jesus had something to say about the issue of division:
“Every kingdom divided against itself is doomed. Any family splintered by feuding will fall apart.”
– Luke 11:17
The sad and dangerous truth about this is that the Christian Church is more divided than ever.
There are a reported 47,000 Christian denominations in the world. 70% of which identify as “independent” from all the others.
We are currently experiencing perhaps the largest struggle in the history of the United Methodist Church. In February of 2019 the Methodist denomination will vote on its next course of action regarding theological differences, and it looks like that vote will be in favor of division. The source of this division is not homosexuality, as many assume. Neither is the that some revere the authority of scripture and other parties do not, as some people would try to make you believe.
The real issue behind the United Methodist denomination’s impending split is that one side holds one interpretation and opinion of scripture, and the other side holds a different opinion.
That is what will divide the Methodist denomination in 2019.
That is what has divided the church 47,000 times.
At the core of our greatest hindrance to unity, to community, and to the love of the other, we always find the same common denominator;
The English language is not good at being precise. We use the word “love” to describe the lifetime commitment and companionship of a spouse AND when referring to a certain cut of pork sizzling in the skillet (because who doesn’t “love” bacon?!).
The Inuits, on the other hand, have approximately 50 words for “snow.” Well, they aren’t really different words so much as prefixes and suffixes, but they all serve to describe a different type, intensity, and even the direction of the snowfall. No matter how they say it, you know exactly what kind of snow they mean, down to the finest detail.
The lack of precision in the english language often becomes an issue because we confuse what we say with what we really mean. This is exceptionally detrimental to the Christian world than to any other because of one single word that we use all the time:
When we say the word “believe” in the America, or in any western philosophical mindset, what we are actually most often referring to is our individual, intellectual opinion.
We believe that coffee is essential in the morning.
We believe that capitalism is better for democracy (or maybe you do not believe that).
We believe that our beliefs make us who we are.
This also suggests that we believe people with different “beliefs” are wrong.
This creates two MASSIVE problems that cripple us as Christians from the very beginning.
The first problem is devious, and it is difficult to see. As Christians, we say that in order to be saved, you must “believe in Jesus.” Under the surface, what this phrase communicates is that our salvation is now dependent upon our ability to think the right things and to have the right opinions.
If we think that God is real, think that Jesus is His Son, and mentally agree that He raised from the dead, then we will be saved.
This might be fine except for one thing;
What about those who cannot think for themselves?
What about those with brain damage, or those who were born without clear cognitive abilities? If we truly believe our salvation is dependent on us thinking the right things about God, then those who do not have the ability to think are eternally damned, and we have an elitist God who only favors the intelligent.
The other option is simple, to “believe” actually means something quite different.
When the people in the Bible use the word “believe” they actually mean another word in our English language.
They mean “trust.”
If you trust that Jesus is who He says He is, trust that He lived, died, and resurrected for your freedom, and trust that God truly does love, welcome, and embrace you as you are, then you will be saved.
On the other hand, if, like the pharisees, you spend your life trusting your thoughts, beliefs, and good behaviors will make you righteous before God, you have missed the point entirely, and therefore have missed Jesus entirely. You were simply too preoccupied to have genuine relationship with the God of love, grace, and mercy.
The second problem follows suit with the example of the Pharisees. When salvation is based on what you think or believe with your mind, then you, like the Pharisees, will always find cause to distance yourself from the ones God is seeking to love.
It divides our churches, our country, even our families, and it is not at all what we see in the example of Jesus.
Jesus put relationship over beliefs. He struggled day after day with disciples, followers, and religious leaders that disagreed with Him, yet He continued to love, serve, and die for them all.
We as lovers of Jesus must learn to put relationship over beliefs…over everything else. We must learn to love one another with a fierce, unwavering love that never gives up, no matter what we disagree upon.
Jesus’ kingdom is not concerned with righteousness that comes from pious, faithful, religious behavior. Jesus’ Kingdom is one where people are the priority and love is the tool.
He will take care of the righteous part. The Holy Spirit will take care of sanctifying His people, and even scripture says He is faithful to do it. Our job is simple,
“You MUST love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind…”
“…and love your neighbor as yourself.”
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Yes!!! Relationship MUST come before being right. This is what true agape love looks like. Far too often in today’s society, we dig our heels in and feel justified in “being right” (even if we are) and lose sight of how that alienates those who need to know and experience and see the love of Christ in and thru us. I have seen this very thing play out again and again within the Body of Christ.
RIGHT!!!??? Haha, see what I did there?
I really believe that if our lives and salvation is based more on being right, then we are in for a BIG ugly surprise. As humans I think we will spend much more of our lives being wrong than we ever will being right. That’s what makes us human, and that’s why Jesus came for us, to make it no longer about being right.
Hoping you and your family grow and grow in more community that is rooted in relationship before shared beliefs. Thanks, Kacey!
This is awesome Kurtis! I can’t wait to read the book!
Thanks, Brian! That means a lot, man! I’m really excited to get it to you!
I really like the format of this article. It grabs the readers attention and gets to the point!! I also like your pictures to illustrate your point or keep the reader on track.
The emphasis on how one believes and the misuse of the word today appealed to me. I have often said how the word love is so glib in today’s conversational use of the word love as you alluded too at the beginning of the message. We “love” ice cream, mom and apple pie.
I wonder if we started using the work cherish to describe how we feel toward another person and even our relationship to the Creator would sound very differently.
“You must Cherish your Creator with all your heart, mind and soul and Cherish your neighbor as you cherish yourself”
Man, “cherish” may be the PERFECT word! I love that. If you cherish something or someone, you will do whatever it takes to show it the respect it deserves, convey your love for them through action (not just sentiment), and always put them before your opinions. I love that, Sam. Thank you so much for your encouragement. It means a great deal to me
Kurtis, since when did you start thinking so much like your mom? Also, I’m glad God isn’t an elitist who only favors intelligent people. I have read more than once that the more educated a person, the more difficult for them to “believe.” I wish you could have a conversation with Grandmommy and Granddaddy. Love you! (In many ways – ha!)
Yikes, I don’t know! There may not be room for two of us! 😉 Just kidding
I have often envied some of my friends with down syndrome because, for them, the truth that God loves them never gets old, nor has it been watered down by complicated theological pondering. They don’t care to know why, they just bask in it. It is a gift and what I believe Jesus meant when He said we had to become like children.
Thanks for being my #1 fan, Madre