Why Deconstruct Christianity?

Why Deconstruct Christianity

Written By Kurtis Vanderpool

I'm a Certified Life Coach working to help people live healthier, happier, and more helpful lives. Whether is deconstructing your faith, navigating a relationship, or just the difficulties of adulting, I have over 10 years experience coaching people to create lives they love!

July 12, 2018

Why Deconstruct Christianity?




Why are we doing this?






Why deconstruct Christianity?


Why talk about the loneliness, the shortcomings of churches, and our own personal struggles with hurts, habits, and hang-ups? 




Why talk openly about faith, community, and purpose? After all, that’s a huge can of worms.




Simple; because life is too hard.






In my many years of vocational ministry and many more years of people watching & engaging in honest conversation, I have seen far too much pain. I don’t mean the “shit happens” pain either. Everyone goes through very painful things far beyond their control.


I have seen too much pain in the eyes and hearts of people that are trying to get it right.


People that go to church, small groups, or other support-based organizations. People that work very, VERY hard at their jobs, their social lives, and their family dynamics. People that read their bibles, talk to someone they trust, and try to pray the best way they know how.


I have seen too many of these people consumed by fear, anger, hurt, frustration, bitterness, anxiety, and feelings of complete isolation. Eventually, they give up, or live with the feeling that there is just something wrong with them; something that no one else experiences. They feel like they’re cursed and no one, not even the God of Jesus can or wants to save them.


This is why we are doing this. That is why we deconstruct Christianity…because life is too hard and this isn’t working.




And there is a better way.




If we want to beat the curse;


if we want to discover that we are not, in fact, alone and that people all over the world know exactly what we’re feeling;


If we want to quit just talking about a meaningful faith, a loving God, true community, and living out a real purpose for our lives;


if we want to actually live these things out




It’s going to take work.


Hard work.




So this is where we’re going:




We will not only talk about these things. This is not just to be part of the fad to deconstruction Christianity. If I only discuss the problems and hint at opportunities for real change, then I am nothing but clanging cymbals in an already cacophonous world vying for your attention and your wallet.




We will walk together through some very difficult, sometimes some seemingly counter-productive challenges to our beliefs, through some terrifying, world-altering paradigm shifts, and some spiritual and personal practices, that when committed to together really can lead to joy, peace, patience, kindness, and goodness for our lives.




Are you willing to do the work?




If you are not, this blog will be an interesting headline on your Sunday morning readings. And that will be nice.




But if you are, it will alter the direction of your journey. The work to deconstruct Christianity will not lead you away from the truth. It will lead you toward struggle and hardship, but it will also bring a joy within you that cannot be touched, twisted, or taken from you by anyone ever.




Over the next few weeks, I will begin by posting some articles about the current system of church that most of us have grown accustomed to, starting with this one titled, I Think, Therefore I Am.


These articles will challenge the way we view faith, community, and God’s plan for our world. They will not all be easy to adhere to. I believe that is why scripture says we have to die to ourselves and be renewed in our mind (Luke 9:23, Romans 12:2).




These articles are brief summaries of the things I cover in my book, Giving Up Sunday: Looking for more from faith, community, and calling, available now in eBook format on Amazon. For a more in-depth look at these discussions of faith, community, and purpose, I invite you to check that out!


And if you would like to get it for free, simply give me your email by subscribing to this blog! I will also be selling it on Amazon, and it would help me spread the hope for a better way if once you read it you go to my Amazon page, rate, and review it so more people might be drawn to a better way of life together with us.




We are doing this for you; for the ones who feel on the outside looking in.




and we are doing this for others who feel like you do, so they won’t be alone in their struggle.




Thank you all for taking this journey with me; for being an invaluable part of the Unsettled family, and for doing your part to bring more joy, peace, and belonging not only to yourselves but to a hurting world around us.




I love you all. I sincerely do.




See you on the inside.



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  1. Dad

    Focus, attitude, relationships, forgiveness, self-realization, and love of Jesus, you might be on to something. Go get em son!😉

  2. Eddie Marcum

    Well done my friend. I like the direction you’re thinking and going.

    • Kurtis Vanderpool

      Thank you, Eddy.

      Your words mean a great deal to me.

  3. Karie Spurlock

    Wow! Kurtis your enthusiasm to work hard for real change empowers me. I can’t wait to participate in this journey with you and others who want to embark on the spiritual awakening of truth and paradigm shifts in our church.

    I hear the passion and love for the family; the church. Thank you for the invite so I may alter my focus to obtain what God is seeking within me.

    I would also like very much to find the abundant joy that you say I can have. All too often I allow others and the enemy to steal my peace and joy.

    I would love to read you ebook!

    Karie From
    West Virginia

    • Kurtis Vanderpool

      Thank you so much, Karie

      I can’t wait to read your stuff!!! It’s going to be incredible.

      I am grateful you can hear (or read) my love. Many think I hate and want to destroy “the church” but in reality I am just not satisfied with ok. God has GREAT gifts He longs to give us, including joy, peace, community, and purpose, and I am willing to work myself to death to help people take hold of it all!

      Thanks for always being so encouraging, friend.

  4. Kristina Janeway

    Hey kiddo!
    I swear you are writing specifically to me and all we’ve been through the last four years. We have been defeated by life, by organized church, family, and people that we are trapped outside the social constructs of religion; however, our faith, as you’ve observed, stronger than ever because we truly have no one to rely on for help but God. I will not only eagerly read your blog but will also get your book. Love ya!

    • Kurtis Vanderpool

      Thank you Mrs. Janeway. That means the world to me to hear that I’ve connected with someone, especially someone as special to me as you. Without blaming anyone (because everyone’s just doing the best they can really), there’s nothing wrong with saying “this isn’t working, so let’s try something different because God still is working!”

      Btw, I had Will and Abigayle Stevens in my student ministry. They are great friends now and they said “Mrs. Janeway was my favorite teacher.” I said, “Kristina Janeway!!!??? She was MY favorite teacher!!!!” My other, equally favorite also reads my blog (Mrs. Ritter!)

      Love you and your family.


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