“Definte yourself radically as one beloved by God.
This is the true self
All other identity is illusion.
There is a story of a couple.
This couple is a Christian couple.
This couple had a son.
This son was gay.
As a conservative, traditional, Christian couple, they believed their son had a sickness that could be healed. They believed his homosexuality was a brokenness due to the consequences of a broken world.
So like a good conservative, traditional, Christian couple they prayed. They prayed for their son to be healed of his brokenness. They prayed this for years.
Eventually, the son left home, got involved with drugs, and cut off communication from his parents.
After some terrifyingly dangerous moments that often come with drug use, the parents had a complete paradigm shift. They prayed more fervently than they ever had for their son, but rather than praying for a straight son, they began praying for a son that was home; brokenness and all.
For them, they realized the truth about their son’s identity was not that he was “broken.” The truest thing about him was how deeply they loved him.
Eventually their son did return home. They were blessed with a little over a year of time with him as their beloved son before he died of an accidental overdose.
Their view of him and their view of everyone in their life will never be the same. Now when they see people, they do not first see their brokenness. They first recognize their belovedness.
Because of their son, they learned to love people just because they breathe.
As a Christian I have heard all too often how broken I am, and I won’t deny it. I am well aware how wicked I can be and how capable I am of terrible things. I am ill-tempered, impatient, judgemental, lazy, self-serving, dishonest, and an addict to boot. I have lusted, cheated, lied, stolen, and according to Jesus’ definition of murder-through-hatred I have definitely killed a person or two…or 200.
As a Christian it is easy to believe the root of our world’s problems starts with thinking better of ourselves than we ought. People are prideful, arrogant, and stubbornly stuck in their self-serving, sinful ways. We often believe that if everyone would quit thinking of themselves so much that we could live in peace and mutual love.
However, I do not think this is the root of our problem.
I do not believe that people genuinely think highly of themselves. I do not think we humans have a problem believing we are broken. Any psychologist worth his or her salt will tell you most harmful actions and attitudes stem from a place of great pain, loneliness, fear, or insecurity.
We act out because we don’t like who we are, and we don’t know what to do about it.
We need a new story. One that is MORE biblically accurate.
Yes, we are sinful people (Romans 3:23). Yes, we are broken beyond self-repair (Romans 7:15-20, Galatians 2:21)–so throw away your self-help books. But like the parents who learned to love their son just because he had breath, I cannot believe God looks at us and is blinded by our brokenness. I cannot believe that a God willing to humble Himself, become a human, and die for us looks at us and only sees mistakes. Afterall, scripture also says that Christ died for us when we had NOTHING to offer Him (Romans 5:8).
If we were to ask God to describe us in one word, only a disgusted, irritated, spiteful God would choose the word “broken.”
No, if Jesus is the greatest reflection of God’s character, then the first thing God sees when He looks upon your face could only be:
Or even better still:
We may be broken. Like the son addicted to drugs, we may need to come home and seek some healing from our brokenness.
But we must NEVER forget, that before we were ever broken, we were first beloved by God. He loves us just because we breathe.
To live as one completely beloved by God, no matter the circumstances in which we find ourselves, would change everything. I would no longer fear going home. I would no longer be afraid of the changes I need to make to be more whole, because I would know there was nothing in the world that would keep me from being loved. I could try and fail, I could try again and screw it all up, I could even give up trying altogether
and still I would be loved.
That’s inspiration worth chasing.
That’s a home I want to be a part of.
And that’s the truth of Jesus.
He loves you completely, warts and all.
You are Beloved before you are broken